Feeling Stuck While Others Succeed? Here’s How to Change the Narrative

It’s easy to feel jealous when those around you are winning. But what if you could turn that jealousy into inspiration? When the people around you are succeeding, you have a choice. You can let jealousy take over and feel bad about your own progress, or you can choose to be proud and inspired by the incredible people in your life.

Whether it's someone building a business, hitting a new personal best at the gym, starting an exciting new job, or chasing after their educational goals—celebrate them! Their success doesn’t take away from yours. Instead, it shows that growth, ambition, and hard work are possible, and it can fuel your own journey.

I’ve chosen jealousy more than once. There was a time when it felt like everyone around me was moving forward—while I felt stuck. My jealousy strained friendships and affected my mental health. I felt depressed and worthless, convinced I would never get anywhere.

But now, even when jealousy is my first reaction, I remind myself of the relationship I have with this person. How would I feel if they felt the same way towards me? I then choose to congratulate them. I think about how exciting this new chapter is for them, and how much it will contribute to their growth. This shift in thinking helps me, too. Instead of staying stuck in negativity, I start to feel proud and happy for them—and that mental switch begins to uplift my own mindset. Research shows that positive social comparison—seeing others succeed—can actually motivate us to pursue our own goals. Studies in psychology suggest that observing someone else's achievements can trigger a "growth mindset," encouraging us to believe our abilities can improve with effort (Dweck, 2006). Feel proud that these are the types of people you have in your life. Their energy, drive, and achievements reflect the powerful circle you're building. According to social psychology, surrounding yourself with successful, positive individuals can elevate your mindset and help you reach your full potential (Cialdini, 2007). On the flip side, negative attitudes—like jealousy and resentment—can be detrimental to your well-being. Research shows that chronic negative emotions can increase stress, lower immunity, and contribute to mental health issues like anxiety and depression (Sapolsky, 2004). A mindset of negativity holds you back from recognizing opportunities and limits your ability to grow.

Next time you find yourself feeling jealous, ask yourself: How can I turn this into inspiration for my own journey? Surround yourself with people who inspire you, and watch how their success helps you grow into your own version of greatness. ✨

Sources:

• Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.

• Cialdini, R. B. (2007). Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. Harper Business.

• Sapolsky, R. M. (2004). Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: The Acclaimed Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping. Henry Holt and Company.